A dear Spirit-sister recently shared a releasing experience with me. Her email started out… “hey love, i hope your life is flowing and as beautiful as ever. i wrote abt my release. xox” and then continued with a link to her blog.
Her “release” was in reference to a dear friend of 10+ years. I’m sure you know the sensation (however you may perceive it) of moving on from a relationship, whether its an intimate partner, a buddy or a business partnership. It’s not always easy and largely depends on the emotions we’ve attached to the friendship and our experiences within the relationship.
In response to my friends email I felt a surge of my own. This surge was in reference to many acquaintances. Family, friends, intimate partners, geographic locations and even states of mind have come an gone in a releasing process that has their own respective (mis)perceptions attached to them. Here was my ultimate response.
“Girl, I needed to read your words. Your testimony of releasing helped me to access my own medicine.
I’m pouring myself a big cup of self-love potion #9. I’m devouring it! I feel the cleansing moisture soothing my throat chakra, allowing me to express everything I need to say to those who have ears to hear. My heart is opening as the living waters seep from the corners of my mouth & roll slowly down my neck. I swallow repeatedly, lost in the knowing that this is what’s best.
As I finish my self-love cocktail I’m reminded of the man & woman on the devil tarot card. I imagine them awakening, removing the chains that bind them with expressions of curiosity on their faces. They nurse their wrists & neck where the misperception of their bond once saw shackles. More relieved for the other they take a deep, cleansing inhale/exhale breath.
Because they know life is eternal they know relationships are eternal. The cyclical nature of death & rebirth is visited upon all Universal forces. They recognize the need for this, their connection to further evolve. Feeling no need to look back they both turn in the direction of their souls journey.
Some relationships grow stale & when they do a certain debauchery takes hold. Releasing yourself ends destructive ego contracts & frees you both.
Love is the ONLY thing that’s happening here.” And in response she said, “OMGODDESS that was everything. shit! i lost my ability to speak! beautifully said!! lovely visuals, so tactile and palatable! power-filled. yes!”
Now I must admit… that was some of my best shit! Still I feel the need to share and elaborate. Watch the video and then read the second half of this post.
How do you know if you’re stuck in the old paradigm and running from your souls ascension? In the case of a parent/child or sibling relationship, look at the dynamics of the relationship from the past and ask yourself, “Am I looking at this person through a filter from the past and judging them based on that? Like, “I’m still angry because you did this to me or that to me.”
If you are moving forward in life and a family member is being overly critical, labeling you, creating needless conflict and undermining your abilities this person may be attempting to hold you back. If someone is committing violence against your dreams, telling you that you’re being unrealistic and warning you to just stay where you are these are clear signs that a transition is in order. You can start by refraining from sharing your ideas, wants and plans with this person. Talk to them after you’ve manifested that which you desire. Begin by not looking for their confirmation and validation. Stand in the power of your own knowing and be an example for this person. They will either rise in the light of your example or the relationship will naturally and smoothly transition on its own.
If your intimate relationship is suffering and you’re curious about whether or not is time to move forward ask yourself, “What is missing, what is this relationship lacking that I believe I can get through interaction with someone different?” If the relationship is not abusive or hurtful, if the person is not cheating and lying (which also constitute abuse) likely, you’re looking for something in your partner that you need to find within yourself.
In many traditional lover-ships we expect our significant others to fulfill voids created in childhood and hold our mates to impossible standards. Like, “I shouldn’t have to tell him. He should just know how I feel.” This is a sign that you have some deep communication issues and you’re asking the other person to take responsibility for something only you can heal. Maybe something happened during your past and you decided, based on some traumatic experience, “It’s not safe to communicate honestly” and now you prefer to hold your partner responsible for knowing how you feel and if (s)he doesn’t you deem them unworthy and seek to transition from the relationship. Unfortunately, you will find this scenario playing out over and over in various ways until you take responsibility for your own healing and release this energy from your being. SIDE NOTE: When I say traumatic experience, understand that many situations that an adult may not react to at all will seem extremely traumatic to a child. Shaming, guilting and pressuring children will create emotional scars that follow them well into adulthood. The mind may forget but the intention to avoid ever feeling like that again will be burned into their brains protective mechanism unless and until it is released.
Are your complaints of a sexual nature? Is there sex but no intimacy or intimacy but no sex? Why? Do you or your partner have any health problems that may have caused the altered sex drive? Is there something one of you have done that has changed the level of attraction such as gain or lose weight, have children, change work schedule? Are there career or financial stress involved such as a job loss or a promotion? These are fixable situations and are not reasons to leave your partner. There may be a raising of the vibration occurring and because your ego is afraid of the unknown you may be looking for excuses to exit the relationship. During a soul ascension, in most cases things seem to get worse before they get better. A break down in the old paradigm must occur before the new paradigm can emerge and be put into practice.
Exiting a relationship, breaking up, transitioning, moving forward, leaving or whatever you call it can be for the best or it may be a bandaid on bullet wound. Look within because everything other than love is a lack of love. Remember, nothing but love is happening here.